Justin
I got the first call about Justin, son of our missionary friends Ken & Linda, at 4:30 pm on New Year’s Eve. It was our neighbor Dr. Joel Anthis. “Mike, I don’t know what’s going on, but I just got a call that Gayle is doing CPR on Justin. That’s all I know. What should we do, try to go up there to meet them, or go to the ER?” It was hard to know at that point, not even knowing the 4-year-old’s problem. Did they have adrenalin? Did he have a blocked airway? We decided Joel, an ENT surgeon, would go to the ER and have instruments ready and I would go to the house. As I grabbed my stethoscope the phone rang again: “They’re on the way in the van, still doing CPR.” [photo: Luke with Justin and Alida]
The van was just pulling into the gate as we reached the parking lot 3 minutes later. I jumped in and directed them to the area near the operating room and pediatrics. Justin’s mom Linda was in the back still doing CPR. “What happened?”
“Drowning,” Ken told me. My heart sank. Half a minute later I popped open the back of the van and Linda handed me little Justin: cold, blue, and limp.
We quickly rushed him into the pediatric ICU and began resuscitation. Soon there were others helping–Evangel residents and nurses, Dr Cindy Anthis, missionary nurses, friends. On and on we tried what we could. There is actually not a lot to do initially for a drowning victim other than CPR. And, of course, each of us was praying silently and urgently.
On one level we just did what we normally do in our professional way. Breath, compress, start an IV, breath, check the pulse, compress, breath, suction, compress, listen, breath, give adrenalin, compress. On another level we were in shock as our hearts refused to believe what was happening. We all knew Justin, this vivacious, outgoing, energetic young boy. He was born here in Jos. This could not be happening. As the clock ticked toward the one hour mark, with no response at all, I was forced to admit that it was no use. There was nothing more we could do.
Suddenly we were just overwhelmed with grief, frustration and shock, our professional detachment temporarily wiped away. We wept and hugged each other. Mostly we were silent.
The funeral was today at Miango. Luke had so many questions as he alternated between his apparently- senseless- question mode and really trying to grasp what was going on. He was not terribly close to Justin but he did know him as a playmate. Why is everyone sad? How are you feeling now, Mommy? Why are your tears coming (or not coming)? Why can’t we see him again? Where is he now?
Our own questions are mostly unspoken. As the speaker, Dr Danny McCain, said, many of these “why?” questions will never be answered for us, at least not in this life. But, he continued, we do have hope, made a certainty by Christ’s victory over death. Not a hope of some vague, shadowy afterlife, of reincarnation, or as ultimate nothingness in union with the universe, but rather the knowledge that with our personhood intact and perfected we will live in glory with God and each other.
January 5th, 2006 at 9:10 pm
[...] Kid’s Doc in Jos writes about the death of the four year old son of his friends in Jos…”Our own questions are mostly unspoken. As the speaker, Dr Danny McCain, said, many of these “why?” questions will never be answered for us, at least not in this life. But, he continued, we do have hope, made a certainty by Christ’s victory over death” [...]
January 9th, 2006 at 5:17 pm
Tragedy in Nigeria
Missionaries are often writing about tragedy, since the lifestyle they’ve chosen takes them out into the middle of it. This tragedy has struck especially close to the heart. Missionaries in Nigeria…
January 10th, 2006 at 6:30 pm
Dear Family,
My prayers are with you.
January 12th, 2006 at 12:13 pm
Please convey our deepest sympathies to Ken and Linda. Someone has said, “When a child is born it cries and everyone else smiles, but when
a child dies, it smiles and everyone else cries”. Oh, Lord, help us to see the joy in a death that is so tragic.
January 27th, 2006 at 5:36 am
Our hearts are hurting deeply for this family. We are praying for you that you will experience the God of all comfort in the deepest way possible.
February 24th, 2006 at 7:59 pm
I will pray for this blessed family. I am reading a book by John Macarthur called, “Safe in the Arms of God”, truth from heaven about the death of a child. This is a must read for all who have lost children and their caretakers. All children go to heaven and this can be substanciated in God’s Holy Word. Love you all in Christ! In His STRONG Grip, Marguerite Whitten for the Whitten clan in San Diego Calif
August 10th, 2007 at 1:27 am
Blyths, We continue to think of you and pray for the ministry. Jeremiah has done two summer missions to Northern Thailand and loves a remote tribe of people there. Jordan (From Grace Fellowship) has done missionary visits to Africa and is going to school to become a nurse to serve there. Two of our families moved to Yemen to share Christ there. We have recently spoken to the Quicks. They are well. We love you and pray for you there. Marguerite Whitten